geek, nerd, etc.
additional note: my view in the realized world is different, but here where most of us will never meet, does it matter? I get that for most people, it does indeed matter.
I'd quote The Player of Games by Iain M. Banks for a nice write up on the use of gender neutral pronouns, but my copy is out on loan.
trying to not log in that often, I'm supposed to be getting some rather urgent things done atm.