@nigel there is; you select the bottom option from the privacy settings while writing your post (click on the globe icon, and select the "Direct" option).
This is not truly private, as the instance administrators of all of the instances involved (your instance, the recepients' instances) can still see it. But it at least (most likely) won't be public that way.
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