I feel like the tech instances are cool but I don't have much sense of community and the political instances are cool because people "get it" but often mildly insufferable, because I get it you know how to read political books
My main question is how do I find a healthy, motivating community to be a part of?
None of the online spaces other than facebook are places where I even feel like having conversations means anything or will go anywhere so when I do post it's just depressive pessimistic shit
Sure I should just go in the real world but I remember when I could message random people on the internet and make a friend.
Now I don't get that.
@nergalur on here, it's all about the mod team. If you trust and like your mods, it much easier to trust and like the people on the instance. There are instances out there (usually some variety of queer) that treat their home tl like a little local chatroom. You just gotta find the places that aren't about one thing (shitposting, anarchy, technology) and find a space that set the intention of community building from the start.
@canary I'll start with this thanks
@nergalur best of luck friend.
@nergalur I really like @canary answer and will second that you should view it kind of like picking who the hosts of a certain party you keep showing up to are. While it's meant for admins, I think @darius post about how to run a social network helps highlight useful things for users to consider, too. https://runyourown.social/
@canary going through the list and already i'm more intrigued by the convos than single issue instances
@nergalur my personal favorites are here, and maybe you'll find something that fits if you go exploring on their public tls:
Weirder.earth
Ecosteader.com
Playvicious.social
Tenforward.social
Plush.city
Stardew.city
Beach.city
Toot.cat
Eldritch.cafe
These folks all blatantly advertise the desire to create healthy and supportive communities, and seem to follow through on the user end.