About a year ago, I moved here to build a relationship with someone who now wants to end it.
So now I'm stuck in this town where they're the main person I know, and there's not much else to do.
I want to move to a big city, but I'm afraid that I won't "make it" since I'm not familiar with that way of life.
I know it's foolish, grass is greener on the other side thinking.
But I've never felt like I really belonged anywhere I've lived.
So... maybe it's time to try?
Big cities can be dangerous. What country? What field are you in? How old are you?
If you are religious that usually helps you to get started in a new place, you usually can find a community that is happy to have new members and offer support.
thing is, big cities also have a much more diverse population. eventually I was able to connect with people I have more in common, than I ever did in a small town.
...tho big college towns can also be interesting.
Funny you all mentioned community, because I actually did visit a church yesterday in our closest major city, so I'm thinking about traveling there for awhile to see if I can meet more people.
I really do like the idea of being around diversity. I've lived in places that lacked that, so I think it'd be a refreshing change.
Large cities do scare me, but maybe visiting one more often would help me acclimate, or find a happy medium somewhere
@kazooboy new places are fun, even on your own, right up until a crisis happens. if you don't have people nearby you trust & who care about you, its lonely & it sucks. people need people.
you could also get one of the "insider's guide" travel books for a city that interests you. it breaks a city down into mini adventures. much fun. :)
@yisraeldov Rabbis are pretty great.
@ischade @yisraeldov The church I visited facilitates lots of small group meet-ups to help people connect, so that's something I hope to get involved with. I was in a similar group where I used to live, and I really miss that now.
There are also a few big cities within driving distance of my immediate family, so that is plus.
Really like the idea of travel books! Exploring some places would probably feel out the "vibe" of the area. Maybe take some afternoon walks to see the sights.
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