How do you fight depression and the constant anxiety of being a burden on those around you, and dealing with people getting angry at you for being down? I always feel like I'm the result of everyone around me being upset, and often am the cause for it. It's a very difficult feeling where there's usually no real way out. I tend to try divert my feelings into doing something creative with my time. Craving sleep and wishing the days away also seems to be all I do.
It's really hard to be someone people love or enjoy spending time with when you're suffering from depression and anxiety. Even harder when these issues aren't seen as 'real' and often tried to be distilled as being the cause of something else which they're trying to solve. There's no real way out, and it sucks.
@balouqlc I really appreciate this, and it does help me understand things from a broader perspective. It often does come own to the cycle where those around get frustrated at you for not behaving the way they expect, and often this frustration is taken out on you, and ends up adding to it all.
@JPEG I know that situation too well! Rember, when my partner prepared a great meel for both of us and invited others for lunch. I couldn't hav them around and had to send them away. All I felt after that was guilt. Far later I had to understand, that I wasn't guilty at all. All I was was ill.
@balouqlc Thank you for speaking about your own experiences, it really helps in making me see that it's a shared experience and I'm not alone. Your experience definitely resonates with instances I've encountered, where people around are trying to help and doing what they genuinely believe is helping, but maybe just doesn't align with the help that we personally want instead.
@JPEG However, I think, that we hav to share our situation with folks, because as I said, depression can not bee seen by people. It is a long process to get the courage to talk about it openly. But it is the first stap to get out of the destroying circle. BTW: Thanks for following bad. I am just afraid, that You get bored by my toots, because most of my stuff is written in german.
@balouqlc This is very true, otherwise it remains silent and affects people who also see no way out. Talking about it is really daunting for the most part, especially with people close to you who it may impact and make them feel like their not doing good enough. And no worries, I can translate it as I go along. :)
It's one of the big misunderstandings about the difference between being sad and suffering from a depression: When You're "just sad", sometimes all it takes is being around the right people to cheer You up.
People who try apply the same method and subconsciously expect to help someone who fights with a depression are bound to be frustrated when it doesn't work...
@tetrapyloctomist @balouqlc Agreed, this is very true. I often think of it akin to weather and climate, where weather is what happens in a localised environment for a short period of time, whereas climate is bigger and can't be changed in one go by one action. Although I may be wrong in this analogy.
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