It's really hard to be someone people love or enjoy spending time with when you're suffering from depression and anxiety. Even harder when these issues aren't seen as 'real' and often tried to be distilled as being the cause of something else which they're trying to solve. There's no real way out, and it sucks.
@JPEG A wonderfull pastor once said to me, when I had to go to hospital because of panic attacks and depression: "When You break Your leg, everyone sees it and understands, that You can't act how You would like to. Depression is not sightable, so people who do not reflect or just are not able to understand, that You are just not able to act how they expect You to do,will let You fell bad." I think, she is right. I had to learn then, that despite my depression I am a fully wonderfull person. And that is what You are.
@balouqlc I really appreciate this, and it does help me understand things from a broader perspective. It often does come own to the cycle where those around get frustrated at you for not behaving the way they expect, and often this frustration is taken out on you, and ends up adding to it all.
@JPEG I know that situation too well! Rember, when my partner prepared a great meel for both of us and invited others for lunch. I couldn't hav them around and had to send them away. All I felt after that was guilt. Far later I had to understand, that I wasn't guilty at all. All I was was ill.
@balouqlc Thank you for speaking about your own experiences, it really helps in making me see that it's a shared experience and I'm not alone. Your experience definitely resonates with instances I've encountered, where people around are trying to help and doing what they genuinely believe is helping, but maybe just doesn't align with the help that we personally want instead.
@JPEG However, I think, that we hav to share our situation with folks, because as I said, depression can not bee seen by people. It is a long process to get the courage to talk about it openly. But it is the first stap to get out of the destroying circle. BTW: Thanks for following bad. I am just afraid, that You get bored by my toots, because most of my stuff is written in german.
@balouqlc This is very true, otherwise it remains silent and affects people who also see no way out. Talking about it is really daunting for the most part, especially with people close to you who it may impact and make them feel like their not doing good enough. And no worries, I can translate it as I go along. :)
@JPEG However, if You need someone to talkt too, You know, where You can find me.
It's one of the big misunderstandings about the difference between being sad and suffering from a depression: When You're "just sad", sometimes all it takes is being around the right people to cheer You up.
People who try apply the same method and subconsciously expect to help someone who fights with a depression are bound to be frustrated when it doesn't work...
@tetrapyloctomist @balouqlc Agreed, this is very true. I often think of it akin to weather and climate, where weather is what happens in a localised environment for a short period of time, whereas climate is bigger and can't be changed in one go by one action. Although I may be wrong in this analogy.
@JPEG this is a huge mood that I experience regularly. I can DM a bunch of the stuff that therapy has helped me build up if you want?
@aurynn Thank you, I'd really appreciate that! :)
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