✅ Am I being contrarian? ✅ Do I already have a relationship with this person, or am I being inappropriately familiar? ✅ Am I "ironically" doing exactly what this person just said not to do? ✅ Am I derailing another legitimate discussion in order to get on my own favourite hobby-horse or to one-up this person in my knowledge of social issues? ✅ Am I saying "Are you surprised?" when they're disappointed? ✅ Am I providing unsolicited advice?